You wanted chinese but settled for pizza? Wanted the red dress but bought the blue one instead? Not a fan of thrillers but spent 2 hours watching one? And you took up that big project, which you knew was a bad idea?
Let’s admit it: at times you want to jump off a cliff rather than engage in a confrontation, right? To boost up your confidence level, here are 5 easy ways to be more assertive and voice your opinions without being a complete jerk. Thank us later!
1. Relax and think about your answer
Be it your husband, your kid or even your boss, do not feel obligated to answer a tough question on the spot. Sit back, “take a minute” to actually think about the question and answer wisely. This will bring back power in your hands, you will feel relaxed and will be able to gather your thoughts.
2. Being straight forward is the way
Perhaps every muscle of your face is trying to show that you don’t like the undercooked chicken, but people aren’t reading your nonverbal communication correctly. So you should voice your opinions and tell people how you feel. If you don’t want extra sugar, then tell the waiter. And if you don’t appreciate the way someone treats you at work, then let them know.
3. Ask that question
There’s nothing wrong with asking questions and clearing away your doubts. Don’t shy away from doing so, as you never know when someone else might want to ask the same thing. If you keep your feelings bottled up, they could explode later.
4. Disagreeing doesn’t make you wrong
Everyone is entitled to have an opinion of their own. If you don’t agree with something, then just speak up and give an explanation about why you do. That way, you will make people see things from your perspective.
5. Practice being assertive on a small scale
Be honest about what you want and feel on a daily basis. For instance, perhaps someone offers you a piece of cake when you’ve been diligently dieting. If you don’t want it, then don’t pretend like you do to keep someone else happy. Small steps will help you a lot in the long run.